Reignite the Spark You’ve Lost and Create a Great Relationship

If you and your partner are struggling to connect, communicate, or find the love and passion you once had, working with a couples therapist that specialises in same-sex, queer and consensually non-monogamous couples can help.

When your relationship is not working, it can affect every aspect of your life; your work, relationships with friends and family, and your overall ability to feel happiness and joy.

Relationship conflict can lead to anxiety, depression, and poor physical health.

When complaints lead to criticisms and defensiveness leads to stonewalling, you may find yourself in a relationship where you feel contempt, disrespect, and disconnection. You don’t know how you got there because it was so easygoing initially.

Perhaps you’re increasingly feeling alone and unsupported by your partner. You keep hitting roadblocks whenever you try to work through your differences, leaving you frustrated and desperate.

You may feel overwhelmed and hopeless because you know something has to change, but you’re unsure what or how.

Common Relationship Challenges

Do you relate to any of the following?

• you and your partner are living increasingly separate lives, and you struggle to connect
• you feel anxious and depressed because of the endless cycles of fighting and distancing
• you both feel hurt and unheard and have given up trying to communicate
• the spark has gone out of your relationship; it feels like you’re living together as friends or flat-mates, and your sex-life is diminishing or non-existent
• you struggle to trust each other and are suspicious, jealous, or insecure about your relationship and where it’s heading
• you’re exploring or practicing consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and struggling with boundaries, jealousy, or communication
• you find it challenging to balance multiple relationships while maintaining your primary connection
• you’re considering opening your relationship but aren’t sure how to navigate this transition together

Working with an experienced and professional gay couples counsellor can help you discover the spark and passion you once shared.

Benefits of LGBTQIA+ Couples Therapy

Through same-sex couples or relationship therapy you can:

• build bridges to reconnect with each other to form a safe, loving, and respectful relationship
• discover how to work through conflict in a way that brings you closer together
• understand and begin to change the negative, destructive, and ingrained cycles of relating
• learn how to listen deeply and speak honestly in a way that enhances your ability to support and grow together as a couple
• reignite the spark you once had and rediscover the love that brought you together
• deepen your physical and emotional connection with each other; make your sex-life a haven for connection and nourishment
• develop a clearer sense of self so you feel more confident, motivated, and self-assured
• overcome anxiety and depression as your relationship improves
• learn to communicate in effective and powerful ways, which supports your relationship becoming stronger and more resilient

Specialising in CNM Relationships

Whether you’re in a monogamous relationship or practicing various forms of consensual non-monogamy—such as polyamory, open relationships, or relationship anarchy—I provide a non-judgemental space to explore and strengthen your unique relationship structure.

As someone familiar with the nuances of ethical non-monogamy dynamics, I can help you navigate the specific challenges and opportunities these relationships present.

Through our work together, CNM couples can:

• develop clear agreements and boundaries that honour all relationships in your non-monogamous dynamic
• learn to navigate jealousy, compersion, and the unique emotional landscape of consensually non-monogamous relationships
• build a strong foundation that supports both individual autonomy and deep connection within your relationship structure
• create effective communication systems for managing multiple relationships and time constraints
• process complex emotions like new relationship energy (NRE) without threatening existing connections
• establish healthy metamour relationships and support networks that enhance your relationship ecosystem
• navigate disclosure and coming out challenges with family, friends, and professional settings
• design personalised relationship agreements that evolve as your relationship structure grows and changes

The path to a fulfilling CNM relationship requires intention and skill. My approach combines practical tools with deep emotional work to help you create sustainable, joyful connections across your relationship network.

Couples counselling can be the best investment in your future happiness and well-being when your relationship is in trouble.

LGBTQIA+ relationships face unique challenges that benefit from specialised support. When seeking couples counselling, working with a therapist who truly understands your relationship context makes all the difference.

As a gay man who has been ‘out’ for over 30 years, I bring both personal insight and professional expertise to my practice. My two decades of specialised training and experience have helped countless LGBTQIA+ couples create loving, lasting relationships.

Based in the NSW Northern Rivers, I serve the Australian and international LGBTQIA+ community in person and online.

Are You Ready to Create an Authentic and Fulfilling Relationship??

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