Reclaim Your Sexual Confidence and Satisfaction

Specialised Sex Therapy for Gay Men and Couples with a Therapist Who Truly Understands

Sexual challenges can feel isolating and overwhelming, especially when you don’t know where to turn. As a gay therapist who specialises in working with sexual issues, I create a judgement-free space where you can discuss concerns you may have never shared with anyone else.

Do you relate to any of these experiences?

• “Help! We used to have a great sex life, but we’ve drifted apart, and now we’re in a sexless relationship.”
• “I think I might have erectile dysfunction, but I’m embarrassed to talk about it with my doctor.”
• “We want to explore an open relationship. How can we do this without hurting each other?”
• “I can’t stop watching porn. Do I have a pornography addiction?”
• “I’m into kink, but my partner is into vanilla sex. Is this a deal-breaker?”
• “I’m obsessed with cruising and hookups. I’m worried I might have a sex addiction.”
• “I’m worried about my chemsex use and how it’s affecting my relationships and health.”
• “My partner and I love each other, but we seem to be sexually incompatible. Does this mean we shouldn’t be together?”
• “I experienced sexual trauma in the past, and it’s affecting my ability to enjoy intimacy now.”
• “I don’t feel attractive enough or ‘fit enough’ for the gay scene, and it’s killing my confidence in the bedroom.”
• “I’m getting older, and my body doesn’t respond the way it used to. How do I maintain a satisfying sex life?”

When your sexual relationship isn’t working, it becomes a source of tension that can gradually tear you apart. For single gay men, sexual issues can destroy confidence and self-esteem.

The truth is that many gay men struggle with these challenges and aren’t sure how to address them. The good news? You can overcome your sexual issues by working with an experienced sex therapist who understands what it’s like to be gay.

My Approach to Sex Therapy for Gay Men

I use best practices and a sex-positive approach based on the six principles of sexual health (Braun-Harvey, 2009):

• Consent – Safe, consensual sex is a human right that leads to mutually positive sexual interactions
• Honesty – Open and authentic communication about sexuality and sexual desires
• Nonexploitation – Mutually satisfying experiences without taking unfair advantage
• Shared values – Understanding the meaning of sex for you and your partner(s)
• Protection from STIs/HIV – Ensuring sexual interactions do not harm you or your partners
• Pleasure – Embracing mutually pleasurable sexual activity as an essential part of sexual health

As a gay man who has been ‘out’ for over 25 years, I understand the unique sexual challenges you may be facing. My specialised training in sexual issues has helped countless gay individuals and couples create fulfilling intimate lives.

Sexual Issues I Can Help With

I provide a safe space to address numerous sexual concerns, including:

• Performance issues – delayed or premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties, and painful anal sex
• Relationship structures – negotiating open or polyamorous relationships and determining if they’re right for you
• Compulsive sexual behaviours – managing out-of-control sexual urges, cruising compulsions, and high-risk activities
• Intimacy challenges – addressing sexless relationships and discovering underlying causes
• Desire discrepancies – working through mismatched libidos between partners
• Sexual compatibility – navigating differences in kink interests, fetishes, and sexual preferences
• Pornography concerns – addressing problematic usage that interferes with relationships or daily life
• Sexual identity questions – supporting exploration of sexual orientation or identity within relationships

Results You Can Expect

Through sex therapy with an experienced therapist specialising in gay relationships, you can achieve:

• renewed sexual closeness, intimacy, and vitality in your relationship
• open, honest, and respectful communication about sexual issues
• fewer disagreements about sexual frequency or preferences
• a satisfying sex life that enhances your relationship and self-image
• deeper understanding of your sexuality and your partner’s needs
• reduced anxiety about sexual performance
• practical solutions for long-standing sexual problems

Even if your partner won’t attend therapy with you, you can still experience positive change by attending on your own.

Why Choose a Gay Sex Therapist?

When addressing sexual issues, working with someone who understands the specific context of gay relationships makes a significant difference. As someone who has served the Australian LGBTQIA+ community since 2003, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to our sessions.

Sexual issues require specialised attention, and you deserve a therapist who can relate to your unique experiences without judgment.

Ready to Reclaim Your Sexual Confidence?

I offer a free 15-minute inquiry session via Zoom or phone to discuss how sex therapy can help with your specific concerns.

Call me at (02) 8968 9323 or click the button below to book your initial consultation online.