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You can have
You can have a great gay life!
Do you feel depressed and anxious because you feel like a mouse in a wheel, spinning endlessly without any direction or progress in your personal life, career or relationships?
Or maybe you struggle with relationships. It might be that you keep choosing the wrong partners and you never get past the first few dates or you’re in a relationship and have lost the spark you once had.
Or perhaps you’re confused about your sexual orientation or gender identity and you feel alone and depressed.
Perhaps you’re considering coming out, or have already started, and you feel alone, fearful and uncertain about your future.
You might be able to relate to some of these issues…
Gay Relationship Problems
Gay Relationship Problems
Do you struggle to form a healthy, loving relationship that is respectful and you’re proud of?
Perhaps you cycle through partners that you don’t connect with, or they don’t connect with you.
Maybe you struggle to form an intimate relationship that lasts longer than a few dates, weeks, or months.
Or perhaps you’re a couple in a relationship, but there’s no joy left anymore. You’re constantly fighting and distancing with little promise of an exciting future. The spark and excitement you felt at the beginning when you met has disappeared.
And the worst part is, you don’t know how to get it back.
Gay relationship therapy or couples counselling can help you identify the negative and ingrained patterns in your relationship and help you form a respectful, loving, and nurturing relationship where you feel heard and your relationship needs are met.
Gay Sexual Problems
Gay Sexual Problems
If you’re a gay man in a relationship, you probably know that when your sexual relationship isn’t working, it can be a source of tension and conflict and gradually tear you both apart.
And if you’re a single gay man with sexual issues, it can destroy your confidence and self-esteem when meeting new people.
The truth is, many gay men struggle with sexual issues and aren’t sure how to resolve them.
The good news is you can overcome your sexual issues by working with an experienced sex-positive therapist who understands what it’s like to be gay and has trained in specific sexual issues that gay men often deal with.
Growing Up Gay
Growing Up Gay in a Straight World
If you identify as gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, or transgender, you’ve likely faced a multitude of challenges going about your daily life.
It can be tough growing up gay in a straight world and you may have experienced prejudice, homophobia, or discrimination.
Perhaps you feel shame about being gay and this affects your self-worth, confidence, and ability to get what you want in life, including a partner. You may struggle to feel good about yourself and positive about your future.
Gay affirmative counselling can help you work through the blocks that have stopped you becoming the person you want to be.
Through gay therapy, you can develop the confidence in asking for what you want, and the skills to get what you want out of life.
Coming Out and Identity Problems
Perhaps you’re only just realising you may be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender and you’re feeling confused about your sexual orientation.
You know you feel sexually different from most people but you don’t know how to make sense of it.
Maybe you’re feeling anxious and worried about what your family and friends will think if you “come out” and you don’t know how to begin.
Or you may be feeling really lost, anxious, and depressed about your identity.
You’re not sure who you are and where you belong in the world.
Through working together on your sexual identity and sexual orientation in therapy, you can begin to get more clarity about your sense of self.
Your self-esteem and confidence will grow as you begin to accept and love all aspects of yourself.
You can feel proud of your LGBTQIA+ sexual identity and orientation and create a positive life with purpose and meaning.
What makes me different
What makes me different from other counsellors and therapists?
- I’ve been serving the gay and lesbian community since the late 1990’s and have helped countless LGBTQIA+ people since I opened my therapy practice in 2003.
- I understand many of the challenges and issues that LGBTQIA+ people face because I’m a gay therapist, have worked extensively with LGBTQIA+ people, and specialise in gay and lesbian issues. What this means is when you work with me, I can appreciate and connect with the very issues that you’re grappling with.
- I’m passionate about helping gay individuals and gay couples move out of toxic shame and towards gay pride.
- My gay counselling approach is tailored to suit your unique needs. I’m committed to getting the best possible outcomes from our therapeutic work together.
- The foundation of my gay counselling approach is gay-affirmative and holistic. This means I believe there is nothing inherently wrong with being gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered.
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