Male sexual fluidity is something that’s often not discussed in the public.
When it comes to male sexuality, you might be tempted to want to define a man as straight, bisexual, or gay, but it’s not always as straight forward as that.
Some of the many variations of male sexuality include:
- men who have sex with men but define their sexual identity as straight
- men who enjoy sex with women and men, but don’t want to have a romantic relationship with a man
- men who are married to a woman and have sexual fantasies about having sex with men
- men who identify as straight but enjoy gay pornography
To get some clarity on the complex topic of male sexual fluidity, I recently spoke with US therapist and sexologist Dr. Joe Kort, who is the author of the book: Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? A Guide for Concerned Women.
In this interview I ask Dr. Kort the following questions:
- What inspired you to write this book?
- What are the most common myths you’ve heard about married men who have sex with men?
- What are some of the most common reasons a straight man may have sex with another man?
- What are some of the predjuces about men who have sex with men but don’t identify as gay?
- Why is it so hard for people to believe that a man can have sex with another man and not be gay?
- If a straight man watches gay porn does that mean he’s gay? And how can his wife make sense of this if she discovers this?
- Can a marriage recover from a discovery that the husband is having sex with men?
- What’s a mixed-orientation relationship?
- What’s your view on the new terminology like mostly straight or hetero-flexible?
- What takeaways do you hope people get from your book?
This is a fascinating interview where Dr. Kort shines a light on a topic that is rarely discussed in the public arena. Watch the video below or listen to the audio.
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About Dr. Joe Kort:
Dr Joe Kort is a Psychotherapist, coach and author based in Detroit, Michigan who has been in practice since 1985. He specialises in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy, as well as IMAGO Relationship Therapy. Dr Kort is also a Board Certified Sexologist specialising in sex therapy and sexual identity. He is also a AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor and offers workshops for couples and singles. He runs a gay men’s group therapy and a men’s sexuality group therapy for straight, bi and gay men who are struggling with specific sexual issues. Dr Kort’s practice is mixed with straight, gay, lesbian and bi-attractional individuals and couples. His websites include www.joekort.com and www.straightguise.com
Books by Dr. Joe Kort: