I recently spoke on The Hack program on ABC triple j radio about bisexuality and whether young people are more open to being bisexual. This was a fascinating discussion that included calls into the station from people that identify as bisexual. They shared their experiences of being bisexual, including some of the biases and stereotypes they have been labelled with by friends and family.
Despite the resounding ‘yes’ vote, there’s no doubt the Australian same-sex marriage postal survey was a long, unnecessary, and painful experience for many LGBT people. I’ve been a counsellor, psychotherapist, and relationship therapist for LGBTQI individuals and couples for more than 14 years. And I’m a gay man in a straight society, so I’ve got firsthand experience with the struggles of growing up outside of mainstream culture and coming out.
Gay hookup apps, like Grindr and Scruff, are the main way gay men are meeting one another today. According to a study cited in Michael Hobbes’ important article, Together Alone, the Epidemic of Gay Loneliness, 70 percent of gay couples today meet online.
Can gay men be monogamous? The short answer is yes, absolutely, but it takes some work. Several relationship studies have been conducted on gay male couples, and they’ve reached the same conclusion: about 50% of gay male couples are monogamous the other 50% allow for sex outside of the relationship. In both groups, stability and happiness levels are the same.
Here’s some interesting research on the romantic and family relationships of trans and gender diverse Australians from Gender Identity Australia. In their research of 160 trans and gender diverse Australians, they found more than half of their sample were in a romantic relationship. This infographic shows that trans and gender diverse Australians have a range of challenges when meeting romantic partners.
The gay scene has changed rapidly in the last 10 years. Dr Joe Kort should know because he wrote the very successful book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives back in 2003. He recently released a new and updated version of his book to take into account many of the changes that have impacted gay men and the gay scene.
I was recently invited by ABC Radio station Triple J to speak on their new show called The Hook Up with Hannah Reilly about ‘coming out’ for their special episode celebrating Mardi Gras season in Sydney. Hannah wanted to talk to me about some of the most common issues LGBTQI people experience when coming out.
According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS), there has been an increase in the number of people identifying as same-sex couples. This may be attributed to different factors including changes in legislation in different states and territories.
After working for more than a decade with hundreds of single gay men who are desperate for a relationship, I’ve often caught myself wondering ‘why is this gay man single?’. You see, many of the gay men I’ve worked with are charming, well-educated, kind, caring, motivated in their careers, take care of their health, have networks of friends, are outgoing and gregarious, have a good sense of humour, and generally enjoy life and people.
It’s one of the best feelings in the world when you find someone you can truly connect with on more than just a superficial level. With billions of people traveling their own roads across the planet, it can be a wondrous thing to cross paths with another person that you can be comfortable, smart, silly and affectionate with (among other things) for many years to come.