The idea of pansexuality is newer than some other sexual orientation terms, but it is a necessary label for a unique and important experience that has been a part of human existence since the beginning. What is pansexuality?
I was recently quoted in an article in the Sydney Morning Herald called, Body politics: Just how important are looks to gay men? The reporter questioned me about a new study of 500 gay and bi Australian men that has yielded some interesting results. First of all, when it comes to finding a life partner, their desires are not that different from straight men and women.
Gay hookup apps, like Grindr and Scruff, are the main way gay men are meeting one another today. According to a study cited in Michael Hobbes’ important article, Together Alone, the Epidemic of Gay Loneliness, 70 percent of gay couples today meet online.
After working for more than a decade with hundreds of single gay men who are desperate for a relationship, I’ve often caught myself wondering ‘why is this gay man single?’. You see, many of the gay men I’ve worked with are charming, well-educated, kind, caring, motivated in their careers, take care of their health, have networks of friends, are outgoing and gregarious, have a good sense of humour, and generally enjoy life and people.
A new survey has shown some interesting data on the health and happiness of people and 702 ABC Radio wanted me to comment on some of the findings. The results of this survey of 17,000 Australians showed that Australians living in the bush and those in childless de facto relationships are more likely to be happy than those living in metropolitan areas and married with children.
Why do gay men have problems sustaining long-term intimate relationships? It’s a big question with no simple answer, but there are lots of reasons that contribute to the difficulties that gay men have in finding a long-term partner. Chicago therapist Brian Rzepczynski is known as The Gay Love Coach, and he recently interviewed me on the difficulties that gay singles and couples experience.
After working with literally hundreds of gay men for more than a decade, I’ve often caught myself wondering ‘why is this gay man single?’. You see, many of the gay men I’ve worked with are charming, well-educated, kind and caring, motivated in their careers, take care of their health, have networks of friends, are outgoing and gregarious, have a good sense of humour and generally enjoy life and people.
One of the topics that frequently comes up with my gay private practice clients is the issue of using Grindr to meet other gay men. I’m always interested in the wide range of reactions to this app and what men think and feel about it. Some of my clients have occasional fun using this app, while others get hooked on constantly being online and cruising for other men- often leading to lots of frustration and despair.
Many gay men struggle to create intimacy and closeness with other gay men, and there are a number of reasons why this is so. The experience of growing up gay in a straight world effects us all in different ways, however there are a number of commonalities that gay men struggle with, and these struggles come to the surface when we are in intimate relationships with other men.
Gay mens’ group therapy is a powerful and effective way of changing negative patterns in your relationships and help you learn how to communicate and relate effectively to create deeper relationships with other gay men. As I prepare for our next Sydney gay men’s group therapy, one of the most common questions we get from gay men is how can group therapy help build better relationships?