Why do gay men have problems sustaining long-term intimate relationships?It's a big question with no simple answer, but there are lots of reasons that contribute to the difficulties that gay men have in finding a long-term partner.Chicago therapist Brian Rzepczynski is known as The Gay Love Coach, and he recently interviewed me on the … [Read more...]
The Truth about Grindr and Gay Relationships
One of the topics that frequently comes up in our Sydney gay mens' group, as well as with my gay private practice clients is the issue of using Grindr to meet other gay men.I'm always interested in the wide range of reactions to this app and what men think and feel about it. Some of my clients have occasional fun using this app, while others … [Read more...]
The Challenge of Intimacy Between Men
This post was inspired by a wonderful book called: The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World. I thoroughly recommend that all gay men read this book at some point in their lives.Many gay men struggle to create intimacy and closeness with other gay men, and there are a number of reasons why this is so. The … [Read more...]
Are You Touch Starved in Your Gay Relationship?
Some new research reported in the New York Times suggests that couples that engage in more touch report higher levels of relationship satisfaction.This might sound like common sense, but it is also a good reminder of what helps sustain successful relationships. Although it is hard to know what came first for these couples, the relationship … [Read more...]
The Top Ten Gay Relationship Myths (Part 2)
Visit Top 10 Gay Relationship Myths - Part 1 if you missed the first 5 relationship myths.MYTH # 6: MY CHILDHOOD WON’T AFFECT MY RELATIONSHIPSome people believe that whatever kind of childhood they had, it has no bearing on the relationships they form in adulthood.Nothing could be further from the truth. It is impossible to not bring … [Read more...]