Despite the resounding ‘yes’ vote, there’s no doubt the Australian same-sex marriage postal survey was a long, unnecessary, and painful experience for many LGBT people. I’ve been a counsellor, psychotherapist, and relationship therapist for LGBTQI individuals and couples for more than 14 years. And I’m a gay man in a straight society, so I’ve got firsthand experience with the struggles of growing up outside of mainstream culture and coming out.
Gay hookup apps, like Grindr and Scruff, are the main way gay men are meeting one another today. According to a study cited in Michael Hobbes’ important article, Together Alone, the Epidemic of Gay Loneliness, 70 percent of gay couples today meet online.
Here’s some interesting research on the romantic and family relationships of trans and gender diverse Australians from Gender Identity Australia. In their research of 160 trans and gender diverse Australians, they found more than half of their sample were in a romantic relationship. This infographic shows that trans and gender diverse Australians have a range of challenges when meeting romantic partners.
The gay scene has changed rapidly in the last 10 years. Dr Joe Kort should know because he wrote the very successful book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives back in 2003. He recently released a new and updated version of his book to take into account many of the changes that have impacted gay men and the gay scene.
I was recently invited by ABC Radio station Triple J to speak on their new show called The Hook Up with Hannah Reilly about ‘coming out’ for their special episode celebrating Mardi Gras season in Sydney. Hannah wanted to talk to me about some of the most common issues LGBTQI people experience when coming out.
After working for more than a decade with hundreds of single gay men who are desperate for a relationship, I’ve often caught myself wondering ‘why is this gay man single?’. You see, many of the gay men I’ve worked with are charming, well-educated, kind, caring, motivated in their careers, take care of their health, have networks of friends, are outgoing and gregarious, have a good sense of humour, and generally enjoy life and people.
“Mum and Dad, I’m gay.” If you’re like most parents, you likely haven’t prepared for that moment when your teen son one day decides to come out as gay. If you had no idea you had a gay son, the statement may make you think that you don’t know your son at all. It’s as if a huge part of him—your version of his personality and identity—is suddenly put into question.
Sexual orientation, according to the American Psychological Association, is an “enduring, romantic, or sexual attraction that one feels toward men, toward women or toward both.” The term is generally structured into the following: heterosexual (attraction to the opposite sex), homosexual (attraction to the same sex), and bisexual (attraction to both sexes).
Homophobia comes in many forms. It can come as an insult, bullying, extreme intimidation, and violence. Homophobia can also be subtle; you could be ignored or you could be treated less favourably than others. When you get such discriminating behaviour from colleagues or your boss, the workplace can become a hostile environment.
There’s no doubt Crystal Methamphetamine, also known as ‘ice’ is bad news. We all seem to know this, and yet there are people desperate enough for the high it brings to disregard all the other negative effects that go with it. The havoc that this illegal substance wreaks is definitely widespread, but it seems to have grown to epidemic magnitude in the LGBT community.